23 March 2015

monday musings 02: design stuff, anniversaries and future things

+ I don't know what it is about stressful situations, but they make me want to crawl into a ball and hide/cry. so I got a caramel apple spice from Starbucks to cure my need for warm love and just happened to be wearing red lipstick (which has never happened before.) so am I a white girl now? am I basic enough? (note the del taco bag on my lap.)

+ a photo from one day as I was putting Beckham down for his morning nap in the dark nursery. It was sweet. Toys everywhere signifying a morning well spent. and for one glorious moment I figured I was doing okay raising him.

+ my face on the way home before my senior show opened. So crazy!!

+ a preview of my senior show that was used as advertisement across social media and all the newspapers. pretty neat, no?

+ my parents visited this weekend and took me and Beckham to St. George for the afternoon. I decided to try out my overalls I bought a few weeks ago and I'm happy to say that I am 100% pleased with them.

+ later that night my parents watched Beckham for us and we went on an anniversary date. 4 years I've been married to this kid. We went to the Pastry Pub (where we had our first date) and shared the same meal at the same table as we had on our very first date ever. Then we went to see Insurgent and ate treats & all was well with the world.

+ we're choosing between NY or SLC for grad school. which means wherever we go we'll be there for at least 3 years, which is crazy. Do I want to be near family, friends, jobs in a familiar area? Or do we want to venture to Brooklyn and be new yorkers for a few years in an entirely new experience? We don't know!

+ some little foodie booklets I designed, printed, and made for my senior show. They're pretty awesome, if I do say so myself. (more to come on these booklets and my senior project)

+ somebody learned to scoot across the floor and now won't sit still for 2 seconds. I guess no more after-nap cuddles for this mama. somebody is just too cool for those anymore.

+ a Sunday walk around Cedar in a desperate attempt to get Beckham to nap. it didn't happen, but we did run into rows and rows of gorgeous blossoms which made up for having to carry Beckham all the way home because he isn't a fan of his stroller.


Buzzfeed picked up an old infographic on how to plant succulents that I made a few years ago, which is pretty cool! You can view the article here.  (my graphic is #3 on the list)

G R A A A A A A A D  S C H O O O O O O O O O L!

It's so crazy. This is our future. Where am I going to work? What am I going to do while Nick's gone to school 20/24 hours of the day? Where will we live? Who will we have to hang out with?

These are the questions that are currently being asked, answered, and prayed about in this household.

Hope your week started on a happy note!

14 March 2015

Beckham's first hike -- Snow Canyon

We took a day trip to St. George and went hiking for Beckham's first time and... he LOVED IT. He loved it so so much, which makes my adventurous heart so happy.

we went to Snow Canyon State Park. It was a chilly morning with not a lot of sun, so we decided to forego a hat since we wouldn't be out long anyways. He ended up having to wear Nick's hat. Bad parents. We played in the slot canyon and he was in love with his new sippy.

Afterwards we went to Larsen's for lunch where he managed to throw almost everything on the floor and dump a chocolate milkshake on me. But he ate his first french fry (!!) which he loved also. This kid loves a lot of things, really.

Then we went shopping at Target (a luxury around these parts) where we bought bubbles, made a stop at Swig and had an impromptu nap/picnic by the temple.

It was a great last only day of spring break & we can't wait to take him to the beach in a few weeks for a long (& much needed!) vacation. Many hikes are in store for this kid, promise!

13 March 2015

as of late - does anyone still read this anymore?

wearing daddy's shirt & cuddling up on a cold morning.

my very own set of valentines at IKEA (one of them was super sleepy & stinky, but I won't tell you who ;) )

the CUUUUTest baby nap hair/fuzz!

his monkey hat finally fits him (we have small heads in this family) & we took him with us to the food truck roundup. (we need better food trucks here in so. utah. cry.)

my cute boy who no longer is content laying on the ground. he must always be up sitting, standing, or rolling over, hitting his head, jumping off of things, and putting everything he touches straight into his mouth. too big too fast!!

gosh i love him and his bald fuzzy head.

+ + +

I feel like I'm in limbo. like maybe in the next two weeks things will slow down and it will feel like normal life, but until this point this whole semester has felt like one giant push to the finish line. I know it won't, though. I know as soon as we're done with school it's on to the next big thing, whatever and wherever that is for us. which is a scary concept because as of right now we have no solid plans for our future except GO. onward.

I chose spring break as the perfect opportunity to get my wisdom teeth out, so nick has been taking care of me while i've been completely out of it and making best friends with pudding & pain medicine on the couch. and now I know what I would look like in a Grade-A Fat Suit. rah rah rah.

I'm dreaming of summer. I'm dreaming of no more giant research papers or senior shows or extra projects and publications. I just want to be done. I want to wake up in the morning and feel excited for the day. I want my bed time to come before 2 am each night. I want to get my Ph.D. in being a mom/housemaker/wife and enjoy my evenings again.

This, too, shall pass! My senior show opens in 1 week and I'm so ready for it to be here! After this its finalizing projects and enjoying vacations and BAM we're graduated. Can you believe it? Because it's not real to me.

18 December 2014

Merry Christmas from Sir Beckham himself

Have a wonderful, happy holiday!

(p.s. he tangled himself in those lights, I promise.)

09 December 2014

graduating college with a newborn

I had my first (and only) baby the Friday before classes started on Monday. I knew I wanted to graduate–it was my senior year and I was on scholarship, there was no way I wasn't graduating. And that next Tuesday I was sitting in class, ready to work.

I realize that not every mother recovers so quickly from childbirth. Some have extenuating circumstances that prevent them from physically attending school, have a longer recovery time because of X, Y, or Z, have postpartum depression, etc. and I understand that completely. I have to admit that I was really lucky with a quick and healthy labor and recovery. I'm also really lucky that I work from home and both my boss and my professors are on my team and want me to graduate just as much as I do.

With that said, as I was preparing to publish this post I was researching what advice other people have on this particular subject. A lot of my experience echoes that of Katie's so I know that what I'm doing works for others as well. I know you can do it, too!

Now that I only have one semester left, and after surviving (yes, surviving) this past semester with a newborn while maintaining an "A" average in college, I'm confident that I can give some sort of advice and support to those in similar situations.

Here's how I did it:

1. Coordinate schedules & Pass the baby

My husband and I worked together to come up with a class schedule where I could be home when he was gone and vice versa. He took lunch from work so I could attend my history class, or he would attend for me and record the lecture so I could listen on my own time. He would stay home when he could so I could go to the school and work in the labs. Eventually we took out a student loan and bought a computer with the same software and makeup as the ones on campus so I could stay home more often. Tuesdays were our hardest days, with my class block going from 1-5:30 and his going from 2:30-5:30. Usually I would pass the baby to him at 1, and he'd pass him back at 2:30, where either I'd leave class early or keep Beckham in class with me if he was quietly sleeping. Because I was (and still am) exclusively breastfeeding and pumping, I had to be able to come home every 3 hours or so which is a whole different deal. (If I wasn't so darn stubborn I would have just done formula and made it easier on myself, but that's not what happened and I'm happy with the way things turned out.) During the time that we couldn't work it out between us, I solicited help from friends and family which brings me to my next point.

2. Ask for help and support

YOU CANNOT DO THIS ALONE. Despite what you think and despite how independent you are, you need help. Ask people in your ward or neighborhood who are stay at home moms if you can drop the baby off for an hour while you attend class. Allow grandparents to watch him. Have your sister come visit for a couple days. Bake your friends cookies in exchange for an hour or two of babysitting. I'm lucky that I have so many people who were and are willing to help us out, but look into campus daycare if you have to because there are always options available. My husband has always been my biggest supporter, and there is no way on any earth that I could have done this without him. My mom enthusiastically tells me all the time that I can do it. So make sure that you have some sort of support system, because it truly makes a difference.

3. Talk with Professors

If you know you're going to be going to school with a new baby, let your professors know. I'm fortunate enough to have professors that are on my team and are willing to work with me. Chances are, you do too! Talk with them and let them know what you're situation is. They're more than likely willing to help. I talked with my printmaking professor, and although the studio was 3 hours long she knew I was going to leave early almost every day so I could go home and feed my baby in between classes. Although this accounted for many extra hours outside of class after Beckham was asleep, as long as I saw all the demonstrations and got my work done on time I was fine. Another one of my professors allowed me to do a senior seminar class so I could do an independent study and maybe miss class time if I had to. Another professor understood that I had to bring the baby to class sometimes, and he was okay with it as long as Beckham was quiet (which he normally was) and when he started to fuss I promptly took him out. As long as you're communicating with your professors, chances are they will understand and everything will work out. But you'll never know unless you ask!

4. Condense your Schedule and take Online Classes 

My job also counts as internship credit which also counts as a class. My outside-of-school publication will count as a class and credit. Next semester I will only have 2 classes to physically attend per week, but I will still be taking 16.5 credits. If you can take it online, do it. If something can count as two things, I make sure I'm taking advantage of it. And honestly, online classes are much easier than real classes in my opinion. Plus you can work on them while trying to keep yourself awake during those inevitable middle-of-the-night feedings. ;) As a side note, I've also mastered how to use a computer with one hand, so in the early days he would fall asleep in my arms (and only stay asleep in my arms) and I could still do a little work while enjoying motherhood.

5. Be Willing to Work

Oftentimes before I went to sleep I'd tell Nick that I was quitting and that I wouldn't be going to my classes the next day. And then I'd wake up and tell myself, "Okay, just one more day. I can do one more day." I've had to sacrifice a lot of early bedtimes, free time, and nap times to get things done. I've had to dedicate myself to a level of self discipline that I imagine people who go to the gym at 5 a.m. every morning have, but for everything that I need to do. Schedule things, and write them down. Sometimes if I don't write down that I need to eat, I forget. I had a friend who told me that I can do anything for 15 weeks, so I tell myself that all the time. Which kind of leads me to my next point:

6. Accept that it's going to be HARD

If you're thinking to yourself, "That seems so hard!" Well, it is. I'm not going to lie. It's hard. Right out of the gate, accept that nothing about this is going to be easy. I've sobbed in the early days because I felt like I was missing out on my son's childhood. I've come home early from class, frantic because he was crying and nobody could console him. I've cried because instead of having a clean home and being a master homemaker and mom and wife that I'm sitting on my computer during all my free time trying to get things done. If you accept that things are going to be difficult for awhile, however hard it may be, you'll buck up and do it. If you can say to yourself, "I know it's hard, but this is what I want and I'm just going to have to do it." then you will. And of course, my motto is, "If it has to be done, why not enjoy it?" Or at least try to. There's no point in being miserable during this time, or you'll be robbing yourself of the joy that comes with being a mom and getting an education.

* Bonus * 

I always put being a mom first. If I have to choose between going to class or feeding my hungry child, I feed my child. Lucky for me, every time I've had to make the choice between being a mommy and getting an education something has happened that has allowed me to do both. Whether that's a class being cancelled, Beckham taking an extra long nap, a deadline being lengthened, Nick randomly coming home early, or a professor understanding and saying, "Okay, see you when you come in!" I set my priorities straight, and everything magically falls into place. And while I am super busy, I've made sure that at the end of the day I don't feel that I'm being less of a mother or missing out on experiences. I also take my faith very seriously and pray constantly for the strength to carry on. I ask all the time that if this is what I'm supposed to be doing that I'll be able to do both (mommying and studying) to the best of my abilities. So far so good. + +

I hope that is inspires someone to keep going, if nothing else. While a formal education may not always be attainable, it's definitely worth it if you have the opportunity to squeeze it into your life. I'm a firm believer that motherhood and raising children is the most important thing I can do, and all that I've really ever wanted to do, but I also feel that getting my degree and having this particular skill set will bless and set a good example for my family in the future.

I for one can't wait to take a photo in my cap and gown with my degree in one hand and my baby on my hip! Hooray for women and education!

08 December 2014

monday musings 01: ringing in the holidays


Postpartum hair loss is definitely a real thing, and while I don't mind my lion's mane being thinned out a little, I needed a change so I didn't feel like a balding, hair-shedding feline. I used a gift card I got solely for me at my baby shower to get my hair done. Beckham came along and sang the songs of his people the entire time, but it was still a wonderful afternoon. I feel like a new woman!

+ On Thanksgiving day, my sweet grandma graduated life & joined her family in heaven. It was a bittersweet occasion. She's suffered from Alzheimer's for many years and has been in a home for the past 5 or so. We were fortunate enough to visit her on the way to Thanksgiving dinner, and my grandpa got the call just after we started eating, surrounded by his family. Her funeral was this past weekend, and although we were unable to attend, I know it was a beautiful service honoring a wonderful lady. We know she's much happier now & we'll see her again someday!

+ I've never been much of a decorator, but this door with the wreath ended up striking my Christmas fancy this year. We were *this* close to buying a giant white tree this year, (I had finally convinced Nick to let me! He's very traditional, you see.) but I decided against it at the last minute. And after last year's debacle, we weren't so excited to cut down our own again. So fake hand-me-down from my sister it is! (if anyone has extra Christmas cards you don't know what to do with, please send them my way.)

+ On the same Saturday after Thanksgiving, my best friend friend Chels got engaged and we got to be a part of it! AND my other best friend got married! Lexi was filming the wedding, so I was able to meet her as well. (bonus!) I even got some shopping in with my Mama. It was a great (if extremely busy) day!

+ Beckham discovered the joy that is the forward-facing camera, and each time I whip it out he makes this face like he's not so sure about it, but he likes it. I'll take it!

+ I'm trying real hard to put together Beckham's art gallery on his wall, but I just don't get decorating. If anyone has pointers I'd LOVE your insight.

+ Let me start off with BECKHAM SLEPT THROUGH THE ENTIRE NIGHT! This past week was hard, like he was not willing to go to bed and me staying up til 3am trying to finish schoolwork only to be up and feeding him every 2 hours or so HARD. Last night I was so done. Nick and I had spent the past 3 hours trying to put him to bed (which he's normally super good at!) and when he was finally asleep I started sobbing and saying how I just couldn't do it anymore. So I went to bed relatively early, and at 8:45 a.m. I realized what had happened. I was like OH MY GOODNESS! Nick! Guess what he did last night?? HE SLEPT THE WHOLE TIME! And we went in and he was just playing quietly in his crib and happy as can be. Later in the day he took a 3 hour nap (and so did I!) He knew I needed it, and wow. It's amazing just how excited I am again to be a mom!

+ Just one more week of finals & it's officially Christmas break. Halle-freakin-lujah!

03 December 2014

life is like woah

(heart eyes for dayyyys)

sometimes I just sit back and take a good look at my life and go "woah."

22 November 2014

wittle bitty bear suits & the like

some things that have happened around here, as told by some pretty iPhone photos:

+ baby boy woke up at 5 am on a saturday morning with his cute face and wouldn't go back to sleep. so i made orange julius for the 100th time that week.

+ we bundled him up in his bear outfit and took him to taco tuesday with us. the whole time we just kept saying "oh beckham, you're missing out. we can't wait until you can eat taco tuesday with us!"

+ i won him a new beanie on an instagram challenge, and i'm obsessed with it (& him.)

+ a lot of leaf/feet photos because fall is over and i'm not sure how i feel about that.

+ learning how to screen print and do brush lettering & calligraphy and watercolor. so, a lot of art, too.

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+ i wish soooooooo badly that i felt like my house is good for taking pictures in. it's not. it's old. it has dark walls and small windows, and there is no carpet. it's all linoleum tile.

+ we're scared to turn on our furnace because the house is so old that neither of us know how to use it, haha, so we draped a blanket over Beckham's window and have been using the space heater to keep it warm in there. parenting at it's finest, i tell you.

+ nick is preparing to apply to graduate schools. like WOAH. mostly east coast, and the U. we'll see how things start to pan out, but i've already had dreams about moving to NYC and asking Naomi from Love Taza to teach me how to be classy while breastfeeding in public.

+ if you're reading this & you've made it this far, i just want to say that YOU ARE AWESOME & BEAUTIFUL.